Female’s orgasm is a complex process that has biological, psychological and social components. The latter are fundamental. There are anthropologic studies which show that in the cultures where women are allowed to enjoy sex like men do, there, women have orgasms. While in those cultures in which feminine pleasure is censored, women have many difficulties to reach orgasms.
Human mind receives sexual stimuli from his or her body, but its process is not mechanical. Response to such stimuli is processed according to certain norms of habits and customs, learned and performed repeatedly. If a woman has positive feelings towards sex, she will enjoy it. On the contrary, if consciously or unconsciously, she considers sex as something dangerous and dirty, she will find it difficult to enjoy it.
Anorgasmia is the persistent absence of orgasm after an adequate period of sexual arousal. It is a problem that can be diagnosed and treated, and in the vast majority of cases, it can be cured.
The lack of orgasms can last a whole life if means are not put for its remedy. In the present time, women state their need, their liking and their right to sexual pleasure.
In spite of this, there is a high percentage of women who find it difficult to get an orgasm habitually. In fact, there are many women who have never had an orgasm.
On the other hand, this sexual dysfunction is related to the ignorance with respect to one’s own anatomy and genital function. In particular, there might be a lack of knowledge over the clitoris function and the effectiveness or stimulation.
Traditionally, responsibility over pleasure has fallen over man. However, this stance is harmful for men and women. It has damaged feminine sexuality and to couples, because, besides offering a male chauvinistic vision of sexuality, it limits the sexual activity to intercourse.
It has been proven that for the immense majority of women, sexual intercourse is not the most effective way to get to orgasm. Direct stimulation of clitoris and its periphery can give place to an orgasm without penetration. Just like it happens in masturbation.
It is clear that orgasm can happen also during sexual intercourse, if the clitoris is stimulated directly or indirectly. In any case, even when a woman does not have an orgasm during sexual intercourse in order to enjoy penetration. Vaginal penetration can result in an full and very pleasant experience, even if orgasm is not reached during it.
To know our own body and its reactions can help to gain confidence, and to know what is not working or makes it difficult is not enough to produce a change. This change is an active process that implies, among other things, to take responsibility to one’s own sexuality.
Sexual growth and fostering a more pleasant way of sexual expression, either with a partner or without it, have to start off with self-knowledge.
The orgasm treatment includes intervention in the causes that maintain the orgasmic difficulty. A good part of the different types of anorgasmia have to do with the lack of knowledge of one’s body and with the ability to stimulate oneself. To learn to have orgasms or to have them more easily is a part of the sexual evolution process that prolongs during the whole life.